Please watch the video below before reading 🙂
Alright, i know you’re probably as surprised as i am that im not writing a satirical piece, like i usually do. However i saw a video earlier that caught my attention, a topic that has bothered me for quite a while now.
I usually avoid speaking on touchy subjects, or “preaching” if you may because i too, am flawed and don’t want you to think that im “Holier than thou”, because im not. But if you feel that there’s something good you have to say, why not spill it out. As you saw in the video above, the problem we’re looking at here is the objectification of women. Essentially that being when women are taken advantage of, are not taken seriously, and are viewed more so as objects rather than what anyone should be looked at as, a human being.
Anyone that would disagree that this isn’t a problem have really got to open their eyes to the reality of objectification. Constantly i see women being objectified. I see it on television, i see it on the internet, i see at school, it’s inescapable. I’m a 19 year old guy, trust me i hear it from plenty of men my age as well to more than testify to this bizarre act that shouldn’t even be considered a norm. There’s more to it than you think, it’s really more than just saying a rude comment towards a woman.
What i personally believe is one of the leading causes in objectification is ignorance and callous behavior. It’s not a thought process when a guy makes a comment about a girl’s body, most could care less or dont even think that a simple sentence could do a lot of emotional damage to a woman. The problem is you don’t know the power your words possess. Another problem is that we’re so used to seeing objectification in the media. I would frequently ask my sister’s when watching a show on tv, if it bothers them that the women on the program are seen mainly as objects. They would respond with yes, but that they’re so used to it by now. Seriously? We shouldn’t be used to something that’s so irrational.
Studies show that objectification can cause social anxiety, sexual dysfunction, self consciousness, depression and so on. There’s a very long list, feel free to research it if you don’t believe me.
Like i mentioned earlier, the big problem is ignorance. Most dont think about what they’re doing. So to help you understand, look at it this way. This is for all the men: All those carnal things that you have to say, every single word and thought…picture another guy having those intentions with your sister. Or any female relative that’s close to your heart. It burns because you know it’s not right, and you’re actually thinking about someone who means a lot to you now. I can’t blame you for having thoughts because you’re human. But what’s important is how you act upon those desires. Because there’s a consequence to everything you do. Not only are you hurting another person, but you are too hurting yourself. With every single thing you do, you have to live with it. So before you plan on making a booty call, think about how you might have to share those experiences to your wife or child one day. Also it’s not rocket science to know whether or not you’re being rude another individual. I’m sure your mother has taught you better on how to treat a lady, and if she hasn’t then pick up on common sense. Who you’re insulting is another person that has a story, feelings, and a soul. Just like you. All i ask for you to please just think about what comes out of your mouth. People dont forget about what you say, especially if it’s something cynical. Also, if it weren’t for a woman you wouldn’t be here.
You’re ruining a person’s life, Bro.
But to the few gentleman that actually treat women with respect, i applaud you. You’re a rare breed, so keep on doing what you do but dont get cocky. I wish for the best for you guys.
To the ladies: Stick up for yourself, please. Dont let a man bring you down or make you feel any less significant than him. You’re just as important, you’re a strong living breathing person with a beating heart and feelings, and you deserve more than to be pushed around and ignored. You have to make your voice heard or you’re just going to keep getting mistreated. That’s the sad and honest truth. Don’t be used to the way a majority of society looks at you. Every girl and person alike living have a quality beyond fathom. Every human alive is a gift from God, one day you will recognize it. But if you’re living in doubt, allow me to tell you that you’re special now. Chin up, there are good things in store for you. There is always hope.
Also not trying to flatter here, but usually guys need the girls more than you need us. Just saying. That’s why we call you the better half. Us men put on a macho man, tough guy attitude, but ultimately I haven’t met a dude who doesn’t want a soul mate in the end. That’s the way it works. Most men…are big babies.
So what can we do to somewhat try to resolve this ongoing problem? My answer is this, just be aware. Have a filter with the things you say, and think about how you can effect someone deeply with your words. No matter how much someone will try to convince you that words dont hurt, they do. And there can be some serious consequences. So contrary to that, strive to say good things and be a good person. Not only will you benefit the other person, but you will develop a positive change within yourself that will keep on growing with good deeds.
Take care of yourselves always, and go out of your way to do good. The world needs it.